On this very day 28 years ago, my lovely mother brought me into this world.

I like to commemorate *HER* valiant efforts by spending the two weeks before and after my birthday celebrating how awesome *I* am.

Past birthday shenanigans have included nearly getting kicked out of a Vegas nightclub after going to see Thunder from Down Under, eating THE BEST BREAKFAST OF MY LIFE in Seattle, and getting a massage in a gazebo overlooking the Pacific Ocean after cruising up the Oregon coast.

What am I doing THIS year?

Nothing, because my birthday is on a fucking Tuesday and I need to adult tomorrow.*

In all seriousness, I like to spend a bit of time each year and reflect where I’ve been and where I want to be. And I like to set a mantra to remind myself of my commitment to reaching my goals so that when things get hard (WHEN – not IF), I will have a phrase that will remind me to keep going.

Last year’s mantra was “Purposeful Tenacity”.


Because I had a vision of starting a business with exactly zero experience, connections, clients, programs, or ideas while working at an extremely demanding job, prepping for some figure competitions, and having some semblance of a social life (ha, just kidding about that last one).

Getting this baby off the ground required zeroing in only on the most effective strategies. I just didn’t have time to mess around if I wanted to succeed.

When I was evaluating any move forward I’d ask myself if it aligned with my vision (Purposeful). If it did, then I vowed to relentlessly pursue it (Tenacity).

Two weekends ago I attended a business conference in New York City and had the honor and pleasure of listening to Daymond John of FUBU and Shark Tank fame. Every year, he creates a phrase that captures his vision for the year.

Naturally, I gave myself a pretty hefty pat on the back for doing this already. Yahtzee!

His current mantra is “I’m on a quest.”

I love this mantra and I think it’s fitting for me this year – but I won't claim it as my own. Each word has to hold its own weight. It has to be personal. It has to evoke a response in me so that when I’m staring into the space between where I am and where I know I can be, I have the courage to continue.

Nothing has evoked a deep response within me yet. But it’s just a matter of time before something strikes a chord. And when it does…

It's on.

I’m nosy.  If you were to pick a phrase to capture your year, what would it be? Send me an email with your phrase. It’s all I want for my birthday. #shamelessguilttrip

*I actually kind of celebrated my birthday already. The same weekend I was in NYC seeing Daymond John, I attended a nighttime yacht party cruising up and down the Hudson River. I made it my personal mission to try every dessert at the table. Happily, I succeeded.

Yacht time = Fancy AF. Photo credit: Aida Mahmutovic